Every day for the rest of our life we will find ourselves at the one of three phases: aspiration, success, failure. We will battle the ego in each of them. We will make mistakes in each of them. We must sweep the floor every minute of every day. And then sweep again.
Ryan Holiday is another drop out genius who is a strategist and writer. He lives on a small ranch outside Austin, Texas. Early in his career he got the success and ego which ultimately make him realize the side effects of ego. Now he is a best seller author on the same topic and owner of Brass Check company.
This amazing book is full of personal stories of many famous personalities throughout the history like Isocrates, Alexander, Genghis Khan, Barack Obama, Howard Hughes etc.
One of the biggest messages of the book is: Apart from obsessive, visionary geniuses’ history is also made by individuals who fought their egos at every turn, who put their higher goals above their desire for recognition.
What is ego:
Author defines ego in many ways and some of them are:
· Someone dangerously focused on oneself.
· Desire for getting credit for doing or worse not doing the things.
· With success comes the temptation to tell oneself a story and we talk to fill the void and uncertainty and it can lead to arrogance.
How to overcome ego:
· Being a student is way to avoid ego as a real student is also his own teacher and his own critic. There is no room for ego there.
· Be an anteambulo, clear the path for the people above you and you will eventually create a path for yourself.
· Produce more than everyone else and give your ideas away.
· Try something new in absolutely new field as our previous awards and accumulated wealth doesn’t matter here.
· Meditate on immensity as every man is a quotation from all his ancestors.
· Credit: who cares!
· The first principle is that you must not fool yourself and you are the easiest person to fool.
· If you start believing in your greatness, it is the death of your creativity.
· Talent is only the starting point: “The question is; Will you be able to make the most of it?
· Detachment is a sort of natural ego antidote.
· Ego crosses out what matters and replaces it with what doesn’t.
· When student is ready, the teacher appears.
· We must shun the false crown and continue working on what got us here.
· To know what you like is the beginning of wisdom and old age.
· One of the symptoms of approaching nervous breakdown is the belief that one’s work is terribly important.
· If I am not for myself who will be for me? If I am only for myself, who am I?
· The evidence is in, and you are the verdict.
· The great failing is to see yourself more than you are and to value yourself at less than your true worth.
“Whatever comes next ego is the enemy”
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